Soul’s lighthouse
A beacon for healing and transformation
Inspired by a deeply personal journey, Soul’s Lighthouse serves as a compassionate sanctuary for those navigating grief, pain, or life's transitions. Whether helping clients find peace in their lives or guiding them toward a serene passing, the work is rooted in authenticity, love, and spiritual connection. Through offerings like Grief Yoga®, Soul Midwifery, Workshops, and Retreats, Soul’s Lighthouse fosters safe spaces for healing, where pain is gently transformed into opportunities for more light, love, and joy.
HI! I’m Charity
Hello. My name is Charity and, to be honest, I’ve been struggling on what to share with you about myself. I thought about doing the “normal” thing of sharing my education, experience, accomplishments, etc, but when I am grieving, I know none of that truly matters to me. (You can find that info below 😊.) When I am grieving, I seem to have no idea what I want or what I need, so how do I write to YOU as a soul that I would like to walk with on your grief journey? I’ll share 3 things about me:
1. I know grief. Yes, grief and I have a history and it has swiftly entered into my life in numerous ways. I have been cheated on in relationships, divorced, lived apart from my children, lost my father, stepdad, grandparents, mentors, friends, and my sweet pups. I retired from the U.S. Navy and closed my first business. I am an overcomer of childhood sexual trauma and traumatic events in my adulthood. I have chronic pain/mobility issues and am a long-time grateful recovering codependent, perfectionist, and I think I was the president of the not-good-enough club for many years of my life. Like everyone in the world, I went through the loss of time during the early COVID years: the heart-wrenching numbness, the shock and heaviness, the indescribable pain and ache. I felt like I was stuck in a clouded jar watching the world continue as if nothing was wrong. For me though, nothing sounded, looked, smelled, or ever felt exactly the same again.
2. I know my grief but I don’t understand or know YOUR pain. I may have had a similar experience or be able to relate to your pain in some way. However, I honor that I have not lived the experience you are living or walked life in your shoes. I have not felt your pain like you are feeling it at this moment. Whatever the circumstance of your pain, it is the most significant pain and loss in this moment.
3. I am grief and love; dark and light. As my teacher, David Kessler, says “Grief is love with nowhere to go.” I made a tough decision to witness my grief and pain. It wasn’t easy. Society tells us to stuff it down and to push it away, but after years of doing this, all it brought me was resistance, tension, sadness, and pain. Through witnessing and getting to know my pain, I have experienced more love and light and less heaviness and darkness. I have found ways to honor my loved ones, my experiences lost, and my aging and to walk through life with grief as my “partner” rather than someone who came to ruin my life. After offering space for my grief to connect with my life, I actually see things clearer and have more joy than I have ever felt. I didn’t ask for grief to come into my life but it did and now it is a part of me that I am choosing to grow around.
She is co-founder of the Jacksonville Flute Duo, has a Bachelor’s of Music Education from James Madison University, a Master’s in Human Resource Development from Webster University, and is a 21-year, retired Senior Chief Musician from the U.S. Navy. She is a wife, a mom, a musician, and a consistent practitioner of processing her own grief…a love that never ends.
Learn more about Charity’s Yoga Journey!
A journey back to my life
I had taken a short online workshop with a woman named Jen Aks in 2023. She was partnering with someone I met through my Grief Yoga® training and afterward, I signed up to receive Jen’s emails. I then received numerous emails that I didn’t even open. One day I was having an exceptionally low day and up popped an email from Jen with a meditation. It was like a gift getting delivered to me and I hoped it would shift my perspective. It did! I became curious so scrolled through her website, and immediately signed up to chat with her, and after 15 minutes I was on this journey of closing doors in my past that had just been sitting ajar and causing me to feel stuck. In Spring 2024, she produced this raw video of parts of my life story and I spent the rest of the year working 1 on 1 with her. Working with her brought me healing, shifts in my thinking, strength, joy, resilience, and courage through feeling and moving freely.
You don’t need a clear picture to begin working with someone on YOU. Sometimes all you need is to make that 1st call and let the rest happen.
about soul’s lighthouse
“My deepest belief from experiencing many forms of grief is that if you want to heal, feel joy, true happiness, calm, peace, and experience light again then you MUST be open to witnessing and getting to know the dark spaces of your heart. Yes, sometimes it can hurt to do this work but doesn’t it hurt now? Yes, sometimes it can feel heavy to do this work but don’t you carry the enormous weight already? Learn how to make friends with your grief, carry it efficiently instead of allowing it to engulf you, and experience more joy and love than you ever have before!!!”
Charity is fiercely led by the fire in her heart to bring more joy, love, and light to the living while encouraging those dying to practice acceptance, release, and ease as they create their perfect plan for a peaceful death.
